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		<title>Seven Tips For Abundant Thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Apr 2010 19:20:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Christine Ross</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever had a day where you simply could not seem to pull yourself out of a bad mood or out of a seemingly non-stop chain of negative events&#8230;? Well, I have found a seven simple strategies that might help a bit&#8230; these basic ideas work to bring you back into a positive energy [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you ever had a day where you simply could not seem to pull yourself out of a bad mood or out of a seemingly non-stop chain of negative events&#8230;? Well, I have found a seven simple strategies that might help a bit&#8230; these basic ideas work to bring you back into a positive energy state. Doing so works positively in two ways: number one, bringing your energy vibration up obviously makes you happier right away, and second, it works to keep you on your path to creating outrageous success and financial freedom.</p>
<p>You may be able to grasp this idea better if you understand the Law of Attraction, which states that whatever is transmitted out into the Universe is joined by (or attracted to) energies that are of an equal frequency, resonance or vibration. There are various ways to express the &#8220;Law of Attraction&#8221;:</p>
<p>1. Where your attention goes, your energy flows<br />
2. That which you think about expands<br />
3. Like attracts like<br />
4. That which is like unto itself is drawn</p>
<p>Ultimately, the Law of Attraction delivers both what you want and what you do not want, depending on the vibration you convey out to the Universe. If you are feeling negative emotions, you have a low energy vibration, and you draw in and experience negative emotions. When your emotions are positive, you emit a high energy, and this draws to you more positive emotions. One of the ways to lower your vibration is to think in a &#8220;lack&#8221; mentality.</p>
<p>I have set forth below some of the ways to help bring yourself out of the lack mentality mode, and basically help move you back into a high energy by focusing on an abundant mentality. Fundamentally, these seven ideas center around the concept of raising your &#8216;lack&#8217; mentality and raising your energy vibration to create a mentality focusing on &#8216;abundance,&#8217; thereby raising your energy.</p>
<p>Keep in mind that I just want to give you a &#8216;cheat-sheet&#8217; here, a quick-fixer, and because of that I have not gone into a lot of detail behind the reasons why these work&#8230; that will be the subject of another post!</p>
<p>And so here they are:</p>
<p>1. Focus on what is RIGHT.</p>
<p>When you focus instead on what is WRONG, or what you are not happy about, you will be putting yourself into a lack mentality and thereby you will be lowering your energy vibration. As an alternative, when you find yourself dwelling on everything that is wrong, try instead to focus on what is right, and you will automatically find yourself raising your vibration. Sometimes that is easier said than done, but if you can start to notice the times when you are thinking about things in a negative way, and cause yourself to instead focus on something that is right, you will begin to find it easier to think about the things that are right in your life, and you will be surprised at how many times you actually focus on the negative!</p>
<p>2. Focus on the ABUNDANCE.</p>
<p>Similar to focusing on what is right, when you focus on the abundance in your life, you automatically move yourself out of the lack mentality and thereby create a higher vibration.</p>
<p>3. Express GRATITUDE for everything you can.</p>
<p>Gratitude is an incredibly potent emotion, and by expressing gratitude, you automatically bring yourself into an abundance mentality and thereby raise your energy vibration. I know that it becomes very easy to take things for granted in our daily lives How many times during the day do you catch yourself thinking about how grateful you are for everything in your life, compared to the amount of time you actually think about all the problems in your life? If you can remember to think more about expressing gratefullness for things every single day, you will inevitably start bringing more good into your life. When you focus on expressing gratitude, you automatically cause yourself to be in an abundance mentality and thereby raise your vibration. If you can learn to express gratitude at least once per day, preferably more, you will find yourself more and more in a happier state.</p>
<p>4. &#8220;I Am Enough Today/Now/This Very Second&#8221;.</p>
<p>A lack mentality results from us thinking that, in some way, we are simply not enough, we are not good enough. If you just stop yourself and think, in this moment, I am enough, it will transform you immediately.</p>
<p>5. NO Envy or Jealousy.</p>
<p>You are operating in a lack mentality when you notice what others have and you allow yourself to become jealous or envious. Allow yourself to feel this way inevitably lowers your energy vibration.. Focus instead on thinking &#8220;I would like to create that for myself.&#8221;</p>
<p>6. No One Is Better/Worse Than Me.</p>
<p>Having judgments of other people lowers your vibration. Instead, try to lose all judgment and realize that every person is created equal, that we are all here for the same reason, and that everyone is searching for the same thing: authentic happiness and joy.</p>
<p>7. Connect To Spirit.</p>
<p>Regardless of what you refer to it as&#8211; Spirit, God, Universal Source, Higher Power, Creative Intelligence, the Unified Field or Nature&#8211; it all means the same thing. Connecting to Spirit is the experience of feeling connected to an energy bigger than yourself. Your life becomes more joyful and meaningful the more you are able to connect deeply. We are the individual expression of this universal Spirit. When you realize that the beauty and joy surrounding you is inside of you as well, you are able to experience life in a whole new way. You are able to start living much more in the flow of your life. Once you begin experiencing life from that place of wonder, and connecting to a universal power, your energy simply vibrates at a much higher level, and you are happier and healthier and you find yourself handling everyday issues with more ease.</p>
<p>And those are seven simple ideas I suggest for raising yourself into a higher vibration, and creating more of an abundance mentality. Not only will doing so make you much happier, but it will also permit the Law Of Attraction to bring you the true abundance you desire in your life and in your business.<br />
<hr size="1"/>And if you want to learn more about how to create abundance in your business and in your life, make sure to visit Christine&#8217;s blog for more strategies and tips at <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://christineross.org/seven-tips-to-help-create-abundance-in-your-life/">www.ChristineRoss.org</a>, and to take a sneak-peak at the secret that the top marketers use to help catapult their businesses, <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://MLMworldwideProsperity.com">click HERE </a> now!</p>
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		<title>How to Get What You Want in Life &#8211; How to Create an Amazing Life</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Apr 2010 14:39:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Laurie Brenner</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It may be absolutely amazing to you, but you can get what you want in life. It&#8217;s much easier than you think.</p>
<p>Then Why Doesn&#8217;t The Secret Work for YOU?</p>
<p>By now, most people have seen the movie, The Secret, or at least heard about it. Remember how your heart raced at the possibility of living your dream life? You could almost taste it after watching that movie.</p>
<p>And then everything fell flat.</p>
<p>You were doing what they said, thinking positive thoughts, and trying to have good feelings but it didn&#8217;t work for you. In fact, I bet what happened is something that you didn&#8217;t WANT to happen. The exact opposite of what you wanted showed up instead. This threw you for a loop and you found yourself so disappointed, I bet you said, &#8220;This stuff doesn&#8217;t work.&#8221; And the DVD went back into the corners of your shelf and your mind.</p>
<p>So you went back to working that boring job, driving your old car, maybe going out on weekends to live it up, only to face the new week again with a feeling of quiet desperation.</p>
<p>I have some surprising news for you.</p>
<p>The Secret does work; it&#8217;s just a matter of finding how to make it work for you, and that&#8217;s the part where most people don&#8217;t get it.</p>
<p>What&#8217;s Stopping It From Working In Your Life?</p>
<p>From a practical sense, it is working. It&#8217;s just not working the way YOU want it to. But it is bringing you your desires, only those that are subliminal to your conscious mind. By the time you were eight, you were already programmed with negative beliefs that will plague you the majority of your life if you don&#8217;t do something about them.</p>
<p>I bet you think you&#8217;re living a conscious life, fully awake and aware. If you truly were, you would be living the life of your dreams, instead of this cardboard cut-out of a life.</p>
<p>Everybody, absolutely everybody operates primarily from this unconscious realm where these beliefs lie dormant UNTIL challenged.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s why positive affirmations and positive thoughts may not work for you. To find what does work, you&#8217;ve got to discover how it is YOU create in this life.</p>
<p>Whether you believe it or not, you are a PERFECT creator. Your life isn&#8217;t broken, it&#8217;s humming along just like your subconscious believes it should. The key then is to find out what manifestation techniques work for you, replace your negative unconscious programming with programming YOU consciously choose and start living life consciously.</p>
<p>We Are Individuals</p>
<p>And because we are, a law of attraction program that works for one person may not work for the other. It all depends on what type of person you are. If you&#8217;re not a visual person, then why create a vision board? It won&#8217;t do you one bit of good. If you&#8217;re not kinesthetic, then writing down your dream day probably won&#8217;t work for you either.</p>
<p>Know WHO You Are</p>
<p>Before you begin any program, determine your sensory modality, that way you won&#8217;t be spending money on a program that doesn&#8217;t work for you. Sensory modality means, what senses do you primarily operate from? If you&#8217;re a visual type, then you need a program that will teach you how to use visual tools to spur you on to your dream life.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re an auditory person, then listening to programs on CD might be the thing for you to help you change your life, or listening to positive affirmations will work. If you&#8217;re a touchy-feely type of person, then you need some kind of program that will appeal to your sense of feeling and touch, which more than likely will involve writing in a journal of some type.</p>
<p>The trick is to learn to tailor the programs you engage in or the system you develop yourself for changing your life, to the type of person you are. Can you imagine a back woods country boy, used to the sounds of nature, with a good sense of direction, developing a vision board with city stuff on it?</p>
<p>There is a shoe that fits you, just like Cinderella, whether you&#8217;re a guy or gal, that will make your dreams come true. Maybe it&#8217;s a work boot, or a ballet slipper, or just a tennis shoe, no one knows but you. You just need to find the shoe that fits!</p>
<p>Based on my experience, and I&#8217;ve been hanging around this place for 5.7 decades already, and using the principles of the law of attraction for over 3.7 decades, I know the law of attraction works. I&#8217;ve used it to create many things. The most important thing to remember though, in creating your dream life, is to NOT be attached to the outcome.</p>
<p>You&#8217;ve got to take the tact of &#8220;this or something better&#8221; and then you need to get involved with a program, a system, a book, or software, something that will help you remove your unconscious programming. If you think you have none, then you&#8217;re fooling yourself. No one survives childhood without being imprinted in some way or another.<br />
<hr size="1"/>I got lucky because I found the perfect program that offers tools to appease any sensory modality you might have, visual, auditory or kinesthetic to help you get what you want and create an amazing life. To find out more just visit: <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://squidoo.com/Build-Wealth-with-the-law-of-attraction">Secret Software Behind the Law of Attraction</a></p>
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		<title>Using the Law of Attraction to Create Wealth</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Apr 2010 12:44:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dale Blackburn</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When you find yourself wanting to be abundant in everyday life you want to be certain that you learn about the law of attraction, as seen in THE SECRET movie and book, and what it can do for you. It is all about what you do in life and well you think about what you are doing and where you are headed. Think about all of your current opportunities and what life has waiting for you. When you&#8217;re seriously interested in money making and becoming successful, you need to integrate the law of attraction into your everyday life.</p>
<p>Using the law of attraction will almost certainly mean you must use your mind to make yourself successful. You should concentrate more on what you wish and how far you are willing to go in life. Thinking about your own degree of success is going to be something which makes you feels good and keeps you motivated into doing so much more with yourself.</p>
<p>Building wealth is something that you might want to do to be able to make your life better and more enjoyable. Thinking about all you can do and what you are able achieve in life is something that you should be proud of. When you are willing to use the law of attraction to be wealthy and more goal oriented you will find that your entire way of thinking starts to change. Putting good thoughts in your mind is something that you should be aware of. It is going to help you become more achievable in life and supply you with the power to be as contented and effective as you know you can be.</p>
<p>How you use your mind and put all the pieces into place is going to make you the person that you become. There is no doubt that working hard is very important but if you want to make life exciting you will surely find immense success and power from that vision. It not always about how much money you desire to make but how far in life you can go. Thinking of something and making it happen is going to be all that you really need to do toacquire your desired outcome.</p>
<p>Think about where you aspire to be and how you intend to get there. There is no doubt that you do whatever you put your mind to when you stay positive and keep your mind on track. Focus in on the good and do not let anything bad disrupt your way of thinking. Knowing what your desired goals are and how you plan to make them happen is going to help to keep you on track and make it much easier for you to become the person that you want to be. This may include anything from being blissful and wealthy to being the person who makes you feel good about who you are.</p>
<p>The secret of the law of attraction and being abundant is something that goes hand in hand. They are both going to be related and likely to make life much better. The exact level of wealth that you want is going to depend on your lifestyle and how the law of attraction is going to work for you. Do not let anyone or anything stand in your way of using your own good judgment. Taking control of your life and the circumstance that you are in is going to be something that makes you feel positive as well as offers you the wealth in life that you are searching for.</p>
<p>Building up your wealth is going to depend on the state of mind that you keep. Be sure you focus on the good things and never let the bad stand in your way. It is all about the power that you hold inside of you and where you take it. Learning to use the law of attraction to gain confidence in yourself and what you do is going to be one of the most important things you can do for your own level of success in life. You are the one who determines your desting and the amount of wealth, success, and happiness you create in your life<br />
<hr size="1"/>Dale Blackburn is a Spiritual Practitioner. He recommends this site for more information: <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://secretsofthesecret.com">Law of Attraction Ebooks</a>. For learning about visualization, go here: <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://secretvisualization.com">The Secret Visualization</a></p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 12 Apr 2010 16:31:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SANDRA ESSEX</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Personal growth is not something everybody takes very seriously. A lot of us simply accept the hand we?ve been dealt with in life and run with. We?ve all heard that it is insane to be doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Personal growth is not something everybody takes very seriously. A lot of us simply accept the hand we?ve been dealt with in life and run with. We?ve all heard that it is insane to be doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome.</p>
<p>That suggests that the only way change will come in any activity is when we improve and do things differently. But what do you observe in people generally? They move from one deadline to another, aim at one target after another without ever pausing to fine-tune the system that?s doing all the running around?themselves!</p>
<p>Don?t be like that. The facts are that whether you?re happy at your present job and looking to climb the corporate ladder, or you?re unhappy and looking to change your career path, or perhaps you own a business and hope to make the most of it, none of these can be achieved without personal growth.</p>
<p>As an employee, you?ll need to be better and faster than the best prepared to stand any chance of scaling through that job interview. And as an entrepreneur you?ll have to be better than the competition to win the trust and loyalty of customers. The winners in this world are those who invest in their personal growth.</p>
<p>Look at it this way, when we invest in stocks or property, the money brings rewards by way of interests or dividends, everything being equal. Would there be any expectation of reward when we haven?t even invested in the first place? Of course not!</p>
<p>Similarly, when we work hard and conscientiously at a job, our time and efforts are rewarded with regular salary and other pecks, again, CETERIS PARIBUS (everything being equal!).</p>
<p>This principle is also true when it comes to investing in our personal growth. The more you invest in developing yourself?your abilities and personality?the greater the benefits you?ll reap. Yes some of the rewards will be financial, but really there are several other rewards that result from personal growth and self-improvement.</p>
<p>It could mean better relationships, a more physically fit and healthier you, a better manager of time and other resources, etc. The gains are virtually endless.</p>
<p>Now what are some ways you can invest in your personal growth? Personal growth can actually refer to a long list of different aspects of you. The aim should be for you to be aware of your current performance or abilities, and to become determined to work on improving at them over time. View every experience you encounter as an opportunity to improve on what you are.</p>
<p>For example, if you are a network marketer, have you observed that you are naturally shy when approaching a client on phone or when you have to address a large audience? That could affect the growth of your MLM business. So don?t surrender to this weakness. Instead, seek opportunities to speak at parties and other gatherings.</p>
<p>If you do that, the fear and anxiety will be reduced at the next opportunity. If you do that often, you?ll soon conquer your fears and begin to impress friends, colleagues, and clients.</p>
<p>But if you accept your failures and do nothing about it, the weakness will live with you and continue to rob you of business opportunities.<br />
Even unfortunate incidents can be turned into opportunities to reflect and improve ourselves.</p>
<p>Generally you should train your mind to always be alert to opportunities to do things better. And rather than leaving it to chance, you can actually go out of your way to get some specific training and mentoring in the areas you wish to improve.</p>
<p>Books are also great sources of inspiration and lessons. In the same vein, you could also join business associations or take coaching classes.</p>
<p>The efforts you put into developing yourself will pay off handsomely. You?ll become better at whatever you?re doing; you?ll be ahead of the pack. Improving yourself will easily reflect on your general outlook and confidence level, which will attract people to you. And if you?re a network marketer, you know how important this last thought is!</p>
<p>As a Network Marketing Business Builder being able to attract daily targeted MLM leads to your business is the key to your MLM Success. How would you like to attract 50-100 leads to your MLM business daily?</p>
<p>Learning these MLM Marketing Skills will help you build your MLM business downline. You can visit my blog and website uniquemillionaires.com to find out more complete information on Lead Generation Training.<br />
<hr size="1"/>Learning these <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://uniquemillionaires.com">MLM Marketing Secrets</a> can help you Explode your MLM business. Sandra Essex is a TOP Producing Internet Marketer. She enjoys helping new people learn how to Build Their MLM Business by using the internet. If you are tired of failing in your present Company then you need to learn these skills! Visit this Blog for more <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://uniquemillionaires.com/articles/why-mlm-lead-system-pro-is-the-best-lead-generation-system-2106/?c=8044">MLM Lead Generation</a> Tips .</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Feb 2010 08:03:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jim Donovan</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>?I have every right to be angry!? How many times have you said this or something similar? You rant on in righteous anger about how so and so or such and such wronged you or how ?they? should do something about ___________.</p>
<p>You?ll defend your position no matter what the cost. You?ll tell anyone who will listen your tale of woe, and if you are lucky, you can even get a group of people talking about your issues.</p>
<p>It?s easy. All you have to do is start to complain about some injustice, real or imagined, and before too long, other people will join in. They?ll emphasize with you and may even add their own story to fuel the fire. If you doubt this, just listen to almost any group of people discussing a current issue.</p>
<p>There is one problem with this entire scenario. The injustices that you are talking about; the bad service you received in a restaurant or whatever is the source of your anger, you are in a vibrational match to the negative situation.</p>
<p>You?re vibrating in harmony with something you do not want and from that point of attraction, you can only attract more of it.</p>
<p>But, you argue, I have to talk about it. Maybe, maybe not but, this is important; you do not have to dwell on the situation. While there may not be anything wrong with expressing anger, there is absolutely no value in maintaining this emotional state.</p>
<p>Whenever you are in a heightened emotional state, good or bad, you are attracting the same or similar conditions.</p>
<p>Knowing this, why would you want to keep replaying a negative situation? Acknowledge the situation, maybe even allow yourself to feel angry or upset by it, but then move on. Reach for a thought that feels better than the one you?re thinking. Replaying unpleasant events from the past has absolutely no value in the present moment. All it will do is keep you stuck and recreate more of the same.</p>
<p>Remaining angry at someone was like letting them live ?rent free? in your head.</p>
<p>The next time you find yourself in a situation that can set you off, acknowledge it and then let it go. Either find something good in the situation or just replace the thought with a thought of something you do want.</p>
<p>Simply go, in your mind, to some place, real or imagined, that feels good and remain there for about 30 seconds basking in the good feelings. That is usually sufficient to change your emotional state to one that is more productive. Remember the wise suggestion from the Abraham Hicks work; the most important thing is that you feel good.</p>
<p>That?s it! The most important thing is that you feel good. Period! IF you?re feeling anything less than good, you?re blocking the flow.</p>
<p>It?s really that simple. If you are feeling good, everything is flowing and you are attracting your desires. Anything less, and you are shortchanging yourself.</p>
<p>Remember, ?As you sow, so shall you reap.? Bible, Galatians VI<br />
<hr size="1"/>Jim Donovan is the author of several best-selling self-help books, an inspiring motivational speaker and coach. Look for his new book, &#8220;Don&#8217;t Let an Old Person Move Into Your Body&#8221; to help you make the rest of your life, the best of your life. Learn More and receive a free gift</p>
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		<title>How to Create Positive Affirmations</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:07:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Daniel Britton</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many of us grow up with a set of beliefs about ourselves or comparing ourselves unfavourably with others. As we grow up we begin to put ourselves down for any slight failure, whether real or imagined. Our parents, teachers and other influential adults can inadvertently create a diminished self image and install a number of limiting beliefs. This is compounded by the numbers of times we think or talk to ourselves everyday in negative terms.</p>
<p>The use of positive affirmations is a powerful technique to change that negative self-talk into something more positive.<br />
Leading thinkers and researchers on the use of affirmations include Jack Canfield and John Assaraf. Research on the effectiveness of positive affirmations as a life enhancing tool has led to the formation of the following eight step system for setting positive affirmations.</p>
<p>1. Affirmations should start with the words I AM. These are two of the most powerful words in the English language as they send a command to the subconscious part of our minds.</p>
<p>2. Positive ? our minds like to work in pictures, therefore we cannot not think about something. So trying not to think of a pink elephant will undoubtedly bring up an image of a pink elephant. An affirmation such as I am enjoying breathing clean air will be more effective than I am no longer a smoker.</p>
<p>3. State in the present tense. This sets up an imbalance in the subconscious which it will then seek to correct. For example if you want to gain a particular position at work, state I am the regional sales manager, rather than I want to be or I will be.</p>
<p>4. Specific ? Our subconscious minds require clear specific instructions which allow them to accurately pursue what we have programmed in the form of positive affirmations. So ?I am rich? is not specific enough, better to say ?I am earning $100,000 per year?. You may also like to add the phrase this or something better, because if you are too limiting in your desires, such as ?I want to marry Susan?, she might not be interested, available or the best match for you.</p>
<p>5. Contain an active verb ? without getting into high school grammar mode, an active verb is a do-ing word such as living, having, achieving, earning and so on.</p>
<p>6. Contain a feeling ? this magnifies the power of your affirmations by adding the fuel of emotion. Consider including feelings such as joyful, excited, thankful or freedom.</p>
<p>7. Keep it brief- to be most effective, your affirmation should be easily remembered and repeated often. By keeping it brief you are far more likely to remember it. As a fun exercise you could consider trying to make it rhyme. In this way, similar to advertising jingles, your affirmation will stick in your head.</p>
<p>8. Make it personal ? your affirmations should be about you. You will not be successful in trying to change another person, neither are you likely to be fully engaged with words that someone else has suggested for you.</p>
<p>A suggested format might look something like this:<br />
?I am so thankful for the freedom that being a millionaire brings me? or ?I am so proud to be accepting my diploma in front of my family and friends?</p>
<p>The final thing to remember about positive affirmations is that they must be repeated frequently to reprogram your subconscious into accepting they are true. Some teachers suggest 100 times a day, others recommend putting your affirmations on your bedside table and reciting first thing in the morning and last things at night.</p>
<p>Like many things we don?t fully understand, it would be easy to dismiss the power of affirmations, but enough respected and highly successful people use them that, this writer, for one, will be stepping up his affirmations game.<br />
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2010 19:07:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nathan Scheer</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Did you know that the past thousands of years there has been techniques to calm you and create well being in a matter of seconds? Did you know this technique that has been used is now being scientifically proven to work? Well the next questions you should be asking is. What is it? I need that!</p>
<p>Oh I totally agree, not that I&#8217;m saying you suffer or any of the sort. Everyone actually can use this, because all of us, if you and I like it or not find ourselves in situations that just don&#8217;t make us feel sun shinny right? Well be it your a big tough guy or not, this works no matter what.</p>
<p>This technique has been used to cure people of beliefs they had about themselves because of the outer world they live in or use to live in. You and I form our beliefs and concepts of what we should be at an early age, be it you believe it or not, certain events in our life effect what we believe today, right now! The reason you keep thinking a certain way may be something that someone did to you way back in the day!</p>
<p>But you covered over it with layers and layers of emotions that kept stacking. This in a nutshell is why some people&#8217;s knees give out, why people caring a lot of emotional baggage in their back and eventually end up having surgery because of it, when all you&#8217;d have to do is this technique. It&#8217;s absolutely one of the most funny things when you first see it, I even thought for several months. How silly that couldn&#8217;t help someone out of a wet paper bag.</p>
<p>Well was I wrong&#8230; Oooooh so wrong. Even when I believe in healing from a distance to telekinetic power and all the fun psychic stuff, but I couldn&#8217;t bring myself to believe this! Why? Well what if I was to say to you, if you tap on certain areas of the body while focusing on your distress it would help eliminate the pain or suffering AS WELL get to the bottom of the reason why you first started feeling this way to begin with?</p>
<p>Yes, I did say tapping. Like tapping, you know almost like knocking on a door but on yourself. Well I figured that maybe you know, this technique might have something here. I finally decided to check it out again after Kevin Trudeau the author of several big hit books like &#8220;Natural Cures &#8220;They&#8221; Don&#8217;t Want You To Know&#8221; and &#8220;Debt Cures&#8221; had discussed this tapping technique in one of his audio programs that I recently went through.</p>
<p>Before this I learned about this technique from Dr. Joe Vitale. You might know about him he stared on the movie &#8220;The Secret&#8221;. At first it was not something I took seriously. But for some reason I took it serious and started to apply this technique after I heard it again from Kevin Trudeau.</p>
<p>Albeit though, this technique not only worked to it&#8217;s fullest potential, I&#8217;m now more positive and happier than I ever have been in my life. This tapping technique is called, EFT &#8211; Emotional Freedom Technique. Let me tell you again, IT WORKS. The reason I guess this works is its kind of like acupressure, it relieves blockages in the system when certain ideas and prolonged thoughts come through, allowing for it remove these blocks.</p>
<p>I found already that I&#8217;m minimizing having to use this technique after a week of using it. I use it still but my &#8220;use to be&#8221; super stressful thoughts are now just minor occasions and they don&#8217;t break me at important parts during the day. There is a movie on this and it&#8217;s absolutely wonderful! You can watch a summary of it, but the one I dig out of this movie is when they cured this Vietnam veteran of his back pain.</p>
<p>It certainly brings a new observation to the world of healing when you start using it! Absolutely amazing, no doubt in my mind. They should be teaching this to everyone!<br />
<hr size="1"/>Nathan Scheer is a alternative researcher, author, affiliate marketer and blog owner: To view a FREE video summary on EFT please visit: <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://tryitoneverything.com/cmd.php?af=1110051">EFT &#8211; Try It On Everything</a> or visit my alternative blog at: <a rel="nofollow" rel="met friend bookmark" target="_blank" href="http://simranjeet.com">Simranjeet.com</a></p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 04:46:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Laurie Brenner</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My husband pointed out to me just last night that I&#8217;m living my dream life. I&#8217;m doing the things that I always wanted to do. Yes, there are more things in life that I want, but he&#8217;s right, I&#8217;m pretty happy with my life. Have I achieved everything I wanted? Heavens no! It is an ongoing journey. If you get to the place that you&#8217;re done &#8211; well that&#8217;s about the time you step over to the other side. Me, I&#8217;m not done, I&#8217;m playing, and there are so many adventures still to be had. So what do I say when people ask me &#8220;is the Secret, the law of attraction real?&#8221; I say yes &#8211; and here&#8217;s 5 steps to make it work for you:</p>
<p>1. Start with your focus &#8211; Martial artists often say energy flows where attention goes. What are you focusing on? You may think that having a thought or two about your desire is enough &#8211; but if what you are doing in your life or with your emotions is contradictory to your desire, it will be apparent that you need more focus in your life. Focus means to hone in on your desire. Be like a dog with a bone. Make a list of what you want in life.</p>
<p>2. Tie each thing on your list to a feeling What is it that you want to experience &#8211; what do you want to feel &#8211; what would it feel like?</p>
<p>3. Feel gratitude &#8211; show the universe you are thankful &#8211; when you walk in appreciation of what you have (and operate as if you already have what you want and you explore that feeling with gratitude) you are sending a HUGE vibration out to the universe that works like magic. Your mother was right &#8211; learn how to say thank you and mean it &#8211; even if what you want is not here yet.</p>
<p>4. Detach from the results &#8211; If you are constantly looking for the results, then you&#8217;re not detached and you&#8217;re sending contradictory messages to the universe. Not being detached makes you compare where you are with where you want to be and makes you focus on what&#8217;s not showing up. This will guarantee more of what you don&#8217;t want showing up.</p>
<p>5. Practice feeling what it would be like  having what you want &#8211; Find a way to feel as if you have the abundance now, have the joy now, have the manifestation now. How do you do that &#8211; by recognizing all the good things in your life. Don&#8217;t focus on the negative aspects; focus on the positive. Life is such that you can&#8217;t have one without the other. Regardless of where you are in your desires, there are always two sides to the equation: what you want and what you don&#8217;t want. So, focus and feel the way you want to feel as if you already had what you want.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t you remember as a little kid how you used to do this for hours on end? This is the way it still works. If you can approach the universe and life with the attitude of a child, not cynical, but open, and enjoy what you experience and have fun while you do it &#8211; you&#8217;re on your way.</p>
<p>My brother and I would play out in the dirt for hours, we&#8217;d smooth roadways, build little houses, make neighborhoods and play. Funny thing that, my brother became someone who worked on the highways &#8211; and both of us have built our own houses. If you can get into the feeling play of creative imagination and visualization &#8211; you&#8217;ll achieve a vibration that resonates with the universe and it can&#8217;t help but send you a match to that vibration.</p>
<p>Remember that the law of attraction is like the sun &#8211; it is always on even if it&#8217;s behind the clouds or on the other side of the earth. It is always on &#8211; it is always working.</p>
<p>Whether you like it or not, believe it or not, the secret, the law of attraction is working in your life right this minute. So what signal are you emitting? If it&#8217;s in line with your desires, then hold on, cause you&#8217;re in for some fun rides! Consciously using the law of attraction to create one&#8217;s life is like an E-ticket ride at Disneyland. But be aware that while you may be at the helm of your little boat &#8212; you&#8217;re not in charge of the Wind.</p>
<p>I know how confusing it can be &#8211; and a lot of people don&#8217;t believe this stuff. They think it&#8217;s all new age woowoo gobbledygook. I&#8217;m here to share with you that it isn&#8217;t. Everyone knows by now that everything is energy &#8211; everything from the sun to the moon and back around again &#8211; everything is energy.<br />
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		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:55:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Frost</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One thing to note is that there is no such thing as a ?league? when it comes to dating and you need to realise this if you truly want to be liberated in the whole game of seduction. Many times, the scenario would entail that you see someone walking down the street hand in hand with a girl you would think it would be impossible for him to get, but there he is, walking down the street with her. So, you question yourself, how does he do it and why is she with him.</p>
<p>And to the sense, you get the answer to the question that you have been asking. There is no such thing as a league when it comes to the game of attraction, there is only attraction. Now, if you have been noticing this girl in the office or in the cafe across the road from your place, and she is gorgeous and you cannot take your eyes off of her, do not think in your mind that she is way beyond your league. That is taking the defeatist attitude first and foremost. If you start with that attitude, then you are bound to fail anyway, so what you need to do is to actually go in with a positive light. One mistake that most people make is that they do not study the girl that they are interested in.</p>
<p>Like, if you know her mutual friends, you have to find out what she likes and the kind of activities that she likes to get involved in. You would be surprised at just how much hooking up occurs during mutual activities, especially sports. One thing you need to understand is that if you can appeal to the right buttons within them, then and only then will you be able to truly succeed. Of course, I am not saying that this is a full proof plan, but this is just one aspect of the plan you need to pay attention to. Another thing that you need to note is that you need to know just what kind of person she is. There is plenty of research that has to be done in this respect.</p>
<p>And you need to know the mind of the woman. You have two kinds of gorgeous women. One is the kind that has self esteem issues because of her beauty and the other is the one jaded with so much male attention, she is looking for something different. So you need to identity which one she is and make your move from there. You can be the guy walking down the street with that woman by your side if you appeal to her mind and to her heart. Surprise with her something and blindside her if you can with well crafted battle strategies. In the game of love, it is sometimes quite explosive and sometimes cunning, and you cannot deny it. Women snare men all the time, so why should you not take the same approach?<br />
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:17:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Frost</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Well, this article will talk about how you can excel at the game of seduction and how you can do so quite easily. For one thing the one debilitating factor that comes into play for most people is that they are often too self conscious for their own good and when this happens, they often [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, this article will talk about how you can excel at the game of seduction and how you can do so quite easily. For one thing the one debilitating factor that comes into play for most people is that they are often too self conscious for their own good and when this happens, they often find that they fail quite miserably in the whole game of seduction. You have to understand one thing and one thing only, self conscious individuals are the people that you can spot a mile away.</p>
<p>They are always shifting this way and that and asking other people around them how they look. Well, for one thing, it is quite useful that you are conscious of the way you look, but you need to remember that you cannot take this concept overboard. If you do, you will often be in the position where you will wear that attitude on your sleeve on you will often be rejected by people who just judge you because you seem a little to insecure for their tastes. You need to know, confident people are the ones who will get the second date and will be the ones who will not be spending their nights alone at all.</p>
<p>Confidence is perhaps one of the most attractive things that you need to have in your arsenal if you are going to survive the game of seduction at all and this is because confidence makes you more attractive than you really are. For people that have physical good looks, there are normally confident, because this is something that has been drilled into them for the better part of their lives. They know that they are good looking and can often get any person that they want. For the rest of the normal population of people, they will often have problems with their insecurities and they need to have a confident attitude to break this barrier.</p>
<p>This comes from several factors that you need to know about and they usually include things like not caring about what other people think. If you started to care what other people think, than you will be in trouble of simply being conscious of every aspect of what you are wearing and what you are doing. In the game of seduction, this is not really something that you should have at all because they can smell this on you quite easily. In the end of the day, it is up to you to rediscover that spark in your heart. Do not think so much, thinking causes wrinkles in your forehead and cause you to think too much about how you are going to approach a man-woman or vice versa situation. In the end of the day, the game of sensual seduction is one that should be approached with enough confidence to overcome it and in this way, you would be able to be the Don Juan or Queen Elisabeth that you always wanted to be.<br />
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