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We all want to be respected by others. And, we would all love to have control over whether or not others treat us respectfully. Is this realistic?
Nigel, one of my clients, has a lot of confusion about this issue. He believes that people, especially his wife and children, “should” be respectful to him, and he [...]

Are you emotionally dependent? You might want to go through this checklist.
__I cannot feel lovable and worthy without another’s approval.
__I need a lot of attention from certain people to feel that I am okay.
__I don’t trust my own feelings. I need others’ to validate my feelings.
__I am afraid of rejection. I isolate, or try to [...]

?I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can [...]

“I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.”
–Lucile Ball, 1911-1989, Comedienne and Actress
Lucile Ball was a very smart woman!
Do you believe that if you put others first, they will love and value you and you will feel loved? Has this worked for you?
Do you believe [...]

Here?s a little nugget of information that you may not already be aware of: Success comes with a great sense of self esteem. Self esteem is crucial for any measure of success, and it would be quite difficult for you to achieve success without a healthy measure of self esteem. The most successful people in [...]

WHAT IS SOCIAL PHOBIA?
Social phobia – or social anxiety – is the fear of interacting with others in various situations: groups, work, school, parties, on the telephone, in a market or store, and so on. People with social phobia experience extreme anxiety or panic when they know that they have to talk or interact with [...]

Playing the “victim” gets a bad rap in pop psychology circles. We have all been truly victimized in our lives at some point or another, but playing the victim is different from that in that it means that we’re looking outside of ourselves and are helpless in the face of the answers that come our [...]

I’ve been reading self-help books for 20 years. I’ve read hundreds. I’ve attended countless seminars, taken dozens of courses. I’ve learned many great things and, in the process, increased my income by a factor of forty.
I have a great life.
But in the process I missed a crucial fact. Something that has held me back. A [...]